Our Island Family Life

I am about the same as far as my coughing goes. Sofie took the last of her antibiotics today and is pretty chipper. She still coughs if she gets too active but overall is oodles better. I, on the other hand just feel crappy. Sick of being sick. Bit by the lazy bug. I just maintain and am not moving forward. I have my final tonight and could care less. I know the stuff or I don't at this point. I will do some brief reviewing this afternoon but I am not going to stress myself out. I have laundry to take care of and have no intentions of doing so. Bad. Very bad. I am working today though. I guess that's something.

Connor came home yesterday from his weekend out. Friday night he went to a friends house. He called and did everything I asked. I was pleased. Saturday he was unsure if he wanted to go to his dad's for the cookout I mentioned before. Finally he decided to go since his grandparents would be there and two of his aunts. When he called Saturday morning to ask if he could go he said he would be spending the night there and coming home on Sunday. I said that was fine but to leave his phone on in case I needed to call him. Sunday rolls around and he gets a call here about him owing a lawn to mow. If I knew he had one to mow I would have told him to do that first before he had left on Friday. I was not happy. I tried calling him several times and no answer. His phone isn't set up to take messages. I wanted to make sure he came on a early enough boat to be able to take care of the lawn. I broke down and called Sean. No answer. Like father, like son I guess. I was getting angrier. I left a message for Connor to call and that he needed to be home on the 4pm boat. He had work and if I had known he hadn't done his responsibilities I wouldn't have allowed him to visit. Did Connor call? Did Sean? Nope. In the end Connor did come home on the 4 ferry and told me he got my message. I told him that was great but I didn't know that and he should have called. He sat down and said he was glad to be home. I put my rant on hold because I could tell he was down. He said he had a bad weekend. I asked him what happened. He said Friday night was fine but being at his dad's was pretty bad. His dad had called him, invited him and when Connor got there he was told by his dad it was an adult party and he would have to leave. The girl and the baby weren't there. There was drinking which I doubt was very bad but makes him uncomfortable knowing his grandfather was there who is a recovering alcoholic and his dad has a very low tolerance for the stuff and gets nasty. He left with his grandparents and spent the night with them. He found out one of his aunts moved to Colorado last month and no one told us. His uncle refused to go to the party because he is still angry with Sean for how he treats the kids and because Sean owes him money now too. Connor got to see him and his uncle told him he was moving to Wyoming for a year and a half to go to college there next month. Connor felt awful for not even knowing it was happening and the last person who was really supportive of what he is going through other than his grandfather from that side of the family is going away. On Sunday he went to church with his grandparents. None of us have anything against church and we go to the one here on the island but Sean's parents are a little...over the top. So, this was like prison to him. His dad picked him up from there and dropped him off at the bay lines. His felt his dad totally ignored him, mislead him about the cookout, and basically told him to get lost. I have to wonder why Sean asked for our other kids to come when he was going to make them leave anyway. Was he planning on dumping them with his parents? A sitter? I hope Connor learns from this. If he wants to spend time with his grandparents he needs to arrange time with them separately from his father. That is what Will and Cade are doing. He needs to not make assumptions on what he thinks time with his dad will be like. It is never filled with attention. He also needs to not assume just because his dad invited him somewhere and asks to spend time with his that this is going to happen. Take what you can get and leave the rest. Otherwise, he is just going to get hurt again and with his depressive personality that is a dangerous combination. He is in bed now and is obviously down. I hope we can cheer him up today with our little grilling party today.

We are still coughing over here. I am getting my taste buds back which means I can now taste all that green stuff I am coughing up. Lovely.

Tuesday I went and did some research at the library or our book selection committee and it went faster than I thought. I had time to drop by the post office and then help out making the dinner (pizza) for our class on Tuesday. Sofie was home with Will and Cade. I had made her go to bed before I left because her cough was now constant. I got the humidifier going, gave her cough medicine, put in a movie to keep her entertained (it was only 3:30), made sure she was fed and had a drink. So she should have been set. I called home to check on them before class started. Will said she had thrown up once and had a fever. *sigh* So I went back home. It was a long night. She was ok until about 9pm then began throwing up until 1am. I didn't get to sleep until 2am. She got all my bedding of course. I had just washed and changed everything that day so it was destined to get puked on. I was up again at 5am with the boys. I worked that day and called the doctor about her. She got an appointment for Thursday. That night I crashed at 7pm and the next thing I knew it was 2am. I was up. All the stress and lack of sleep had me coughing and congested again. I laid in bed but finally got up at 4:30 since we had to take the 6am ferry to town. Cade had his therapy at 8am, then we picked up his new glasses. Sofie had her appointment at 10:30. She has what I have and we had to get her antibiotics. In the end after chest x-rays and waiting for prescriptions we missed the 2:45 boat and there went my last practical class. We got home at 7pm changed and went to bed. I slept pretty well and would have gone longer if the kids hadn't gotten up. I had managed to get some food shopping done yesterday in between appointments and Will and Connor got them and put them away. I better be careful I could get used to that kind of pampering. Sofie is in good spirits which is nice since I'm not. I have been coughing all morning and blowing my nose. I am working again today (again, SO glad I can work from home) but I keep falling asleep. My eyes close standing up. I almost did that washing the dishes the morning. Now the kids are taking a nap so I think I will too.

I forgot I was going to post some more of my winning banner for stories I have written. So I will go backwards from the one I have had stuck at the bottom of the page for some time. Yeah, me!

I will be off to class soon. I am very tired but couldn't sleep due to congestion. Now that I took some medicine and feel a little better I could nap but now I have to get ready to go. I am trying to look forward to it but ...

Last night I missed yet another class. I feel terrible about it. I also was not able to finish the house I was supposed to clean and I am seriously thinking about cutting back jobs even though I need the money. Things are just going to have suck financially until Sofie is self sufficient.