Our Island Family Life

I was finally able to get Cade in to see a counselor next week. There are some pros and cons. I wasn't thrilled it took me three days to get a hold of anyone there. I was on hold forever and every time it was over ten minutes I left a message. I left a lot of messages. On the plus side he doesn't have to wait weeks for an open slot. So, that evened out for me. Another con was that his regular counselor is leaving for the summer. Even if Cade was still seeing him regularly Cade would have been shifted to a new person. Cade is going to see a lady named Rose on Monday. I asked him if he was ok with that and he was sad to not see his old guy but he was still enthusiastic to go. When your ten year old is looking forward to therapy you know things aren't good. He remembers the lady his dad I was were seeing and is kind of curious what it will be like to talk to a woman. I think he will be fine. This coming weekend is a dad weekend but Cade is still not wanting to go. He also is refusing to call again. I understand how he feels since the last call went so very bad. I hope I can get him to send an email instead. That way they are still communicating and everything will be documented. I have brought emailing up to Cade and told him how keep the doors open to talk is a good thing but if he was feeling scared about seeing his dad alone or over there and calling, there is always letters, email, talking face to face in a public setting and in therapy. So we got the therapy route on track now and I think he will write and email tonight. I feel better knowing he has an appointment on Monday. As for this weekend, even if he was seeing his dad without any issues he would have been staying home since we have company coming he hasn't seen in months. I want to make sure I do everything in my power to support Cade in seeing his dad. Therapy, encouraging him to communicate and being open and honest. What I can't do is force him to go if he is scared and do the talking for him/them. I also can't make Sean apologize or give Cade what he wants from his dad. It's a crossroads I guess.